Being a woman – by Jazz
I’m a woman in Denmark today year 2016. When asked if I could write this blog about what I felt it is to be a woman, I really had to think hard about how I felt like being a woman! I don’t walk around thinking about this, I just am a woman.
As it turns out, it’s such a big definition, there’s really not just one answer, not even for me as an individual. So I looked up the definition in the dictionary to see what wise people define a woman to be:
1. the female human being, as distinguished from a girl or a man. (Mmmkay)
2. an adult female person. (I guess they are still hoping with this one)
3. a female attendant to a lady of rank. (Now we talking)
4. a wife. (You never know)
5. the nature, characteristics, or feelings often attributed to women; womanliness. (Did someone say generalisation?)
6. a sweetheart or paramour; mistress. (We all have a little of this and a little of that in us)
7. a female employee or representative. (…or boss?)
Last in my search for inspiration, I thought lets asked the men; so I went and I asked a fifties man and one of them twenty-something dudes. Fifty: In three words, complicated, sensual and dominating. Our twenty-somthing is somewhat of a philosopher on the subject:
Women are all that society and men need, but also fear. Women articulate problems , without having the intention of solving them. Women are all that is incomplete, but creates a wholeness and balance, and yet still stand as an image of something perfect, that can give the contrary affect.
So what does it mean, what does it feel like to be a woman today? I can understand both men in their observations, also understand the difference in their observations, taking in consideration the difference in age. We are quite powerful ! The world cannot live without women, however we can’t stand alone in it either. I love the definition in the dictionary, because it really shows what woman are, and not limited to be, in several variations (of course).
For me being a woman feels good, confusing, hard, complicated and so on. I’m sure men also feel much of this, but this is not about you, so lets skip them.
In the past women were just women, they were born, grew up, got married, became pregnant, gave birth and so on. Not much was expected of us, and there were no standards or expectations.
What it takes to be a woman today is so much different from then ! We are expected to grow up, be girly, have an education, give birth, nurture our children……and work! Even more complicated is, that these are not just expectations from men, but from ourselves, society. There’s equal opportunity, equal pay, equal rights on the board today, and honestly… all I want to do is take a nap.
Being a woman today means being able to love yourself (and we all know that is not always easy) love that significant other, love your children, dedicate time to all, and work, build a career, see friends and be Sex and the City cosmopolitan girl, and all of this in one life without falling apart; because we all know that crying is so typical women…
How I manage? I grew up, which wasn’t easy, when you are not girly, I saw the world, started my career, met whom I believe to be the love of my life, and even managed to get two children (ooookay superwoman here, they are stepchildren, but wonderful). I take one day at a time, as to not go nuts. I use my sensitive side to nurture my family, and my build in sense of multitasking at work. I find being a woman is great, we get a lot hardship, but many of the joys as well.
We might be complicated, sensual, dominating, confusing and more all in one, but we are wonderful, so let me hear you roar!
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